tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post111919788392034761..comments2023-12-24T01:23:48.970+05:30Comments on Youth Curry - Insight on Indian Youth: What's love got to do with it?Rashmi Bansalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17447667745099994241noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-1119809225315968012005-06-26T23:37:00.000+05:302005-06-26T23:37:00.000+05:30Hi, first time poster here... It was very interest...Hi, first time poster here... It was very interesting the way you described kids, mortagages etc as joint "projects" which keep relationships together. This assumes greater significance in working couples where both are financially independent. Have soend quite some time brooding on this particular idea.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-1119287219066319302005-06-20T22:36:00.000+05:302005-06-20T22:36:00.000+05:30I'm not anti-sibling. I have a younger brother... ...I'm not anti-sibling. I have a younger brother... and there are a lot of memories we share. I'm just saying you can't take ANY relationship for granted anymore. And that having two kids is more disruptive than one to a woman's career and other ambitions... So many of us will weight the pros and cons and be 'selfish' about having a second baby. You'll know the dilemma when you get to it!Rashmi Bansalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17447667745099994241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-1119256160830097322005-06-20T13:59:00.000+05:302005-06-20T13:59:00.000+05:30Hey Rashmi,First time here.. While I tend to agree...Hey Rashmi,<BR/>First time here.. <BR/><BR/>While I tend to agree with your closing statement, I also do believe that siblings bring in a lot of joy (most of the times!) to one's life.. :) <BR/><BR/>Thanks to a transferrable job, my parents were on the move quite a bit and we've lived all over the country...Having a younger sibling made the transition to a new city easier... My sister and I always had each other to hang out with and get over the adjusting-in-a-new-city blues... :)<BR/><BR/>...and eventually, how things pan out between siblings depends entirely on what is it that binds them...all things material or simply being each other's emotional anchors?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-1119251631724261862005-06-20T12:43:00.000+05:302005-06-20T12:43:00.000+05:30Definitely, a companion sibling is better than sin...Definitely, a companion sibling is better than single upbringing. Just think about the enormous peer-learning one is exposed during upbringing. However, I guess opposite gender siblings are relatively better off because of less competition in ownership issues in later stages. This is again more prevalent in typical Indian families (barring families like Scindia's or Dutt's in politics).<BR/><BR/>About love marriage (LM) vs. arrange marriage (AM), i am reminded of Osho's reasoning, LM based on gaseous state while AM based on physical solidus foundation and thus more stable. <BR/><BR/>However, although the foundation may be gaseous, but LM calls for the other person (gas) to occupy space according to your occupancy, and keep evolving on that space, rather than two physical objects kept next to each other.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-1119251012218930912005-06-20T12:33:00.000+05:302005-06-20T12:33:00.000+05:30I think brothers/sisters break up easier than frie...I think brothers/sisters break up easier than friends. But, that is only when the grow up. The companionship of a brother/ sister can be compared to nothing to children, leave the grown up matters to themselves.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-1119245728625505662005-06-20T11:05:00.000+05:302005-06-20T11:05:00.000+05:30*irrelevant comment* but are archives deleted afte...*irrelevant comment* but are archives deleted after a certain period of time. as in where do i get the posts before January 2005 on ur blog?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-1119243338367925352005-06-20T10:25:00.000+05:302005-06-20T10:25:00.000+05:30Hey RashmiI don't think that 'family' has become a...Hey Rashmi<BR/>I don't think that 'family' has become an archaic concept , maybe because of my own experience . I have 2 chachas and my dad gets along really well with them, though they don't live with us.I live with my grandparents and I don't have a problem with that.Infact i'm chill with the idea of staying with my in laws when I get married.Considering generally most parents are working these days , children brought up by their grand parents are definitely better off than children brought up by servants. I have a younger brother and we do have our share of fights but, life would not have been the same without him.<BR/>So, i'm definitely not disillusioned with the concept of 'family'.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-1119233861275277022005-06-20T07:47:00.000+05:302005-06-20T07:47:00.000+05:30Kind of Agree with Bhavya here. I don't know if I ...Kind of Agree with Bhavya here. I don't know if I can counter your deep analysis here logically, but you simply have to ask people who were alone with people who had siblings to see what they lost/gained. Of course, they might not get along whole life, but then in your words, there is no guarantee that any human being is going to get along with another. Why does one marry (okay there is reason to it) but why have a child? That hardly is a necessity except, I don't know, perhaps love? And this doesn't mean that you need to have another child, its a personal wish, but if you are generalizing this through logic, I think that fails.<BR/><BR/>PS: I see that I can still post anonymous, I thought you wanted to removed that!Ashish Guptahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09921628437600152113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-1119232965430958182005-06-20T07:32:00.000+05:302005-06-20T07:32:00.000+05:30I'm not saying siblings are going to have a great ...I'm not saying siblings are going to have a great time all the time, but life wouldn't be the same without brother.<BR/>Single kids are screwed up, simply because they'll never learn to deal with living with things they don't like!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11209198452609328676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-1119228365555510122005-06-20T06:16:00.000+05:302005-06-20T06:16:00.000+05:30If you are strong and dedicated enough farz is eno...If you are strong and dedicated enough farz is enough to keep the family together. I realise that it's not easy, but then that's why there are so many examples of failed relationships while the ones which shine through are very rare....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com