tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post4238902106499779258..comments2023-12-24T01:23:48.970+05:30Comments on Youth Curry - Insight on Indian Youth: Lipstick Jungle - Survival GuideRashmi Bansalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17447667745099994241noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-36911768909468585462010-10-06T13:06:21.644+05:302010-10-06T13:06:21.644+05:30You hit the nail right Rashmi.
Read my views at ht...You hit the nail right Rashmi.<br />Read my views at http://nehasinha.wordpress.com/2010/10/06/the-career-woman/Nehahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07988785349500757894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-26679481984835414702010-09-23T13:35:47.153+05:302010-09-23T13:35:47.153+05:30The truth is ambitious women are a rare species in...The truth is ambitious women are a rare species in India, even in cities. Out of a dozen mba aspirants i meet, hardly 1 or 2 believe that they can make it to IIM. There are dozens of women like Chanda Kochar who have conquered business and personal world. I have no idea what women are waiting for, to motivate them to reach corporate excellence. They should be able to choose a husband who makes the family a stress relieving experience and support them in their career as much as a wife is expected to support a husband in India.Maruhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15185927484244574851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-88493948344925895602010-09-14T21:33:48.038+05:302010-09-14T21:33:48.038+05:30Hi,
The point here seems to be ' My path is a ...Hi,<br />The point here seems to be ' My path is a lil more difficult than yours '. There can be arguments & counter arguments as, unfortunately, no-one accepts that his/her life has been much easier than that of a thousand others. It's the other way round usually, as we have this unconscious urge to validate ourselves. <br />Looking the issue from a different angle; Just ponder:<br />Whether it's an issue of More Choices or limited choices?<br />Its simple your life is as much difficult as many choices you have!<br />More the choice , more the act of chosing ---- and whenever you have to chose, it goes without saying that you have to leave something ......Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04025009376032621181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-43732505123469887592010-09-14T08:15:04.811+05:302010-09-14T08:15:04.811+05:30Hi Rashmi,
Well written. Having gone through kids...Hi Rashmi,<br /><br />Well written. Having gone through kids, career and nannys, I actually moved on my own after 18 years. Decided the rat race was getting boring. Today am on my own with a set of regular clients, grown up kids and great fun. Feel everything also depends on your sense of determination and ofcourse a supportive spouse. But a very useful insight for 20s and 30s mothers. Ladies - just hang on there, this will also pass.Shobana Anandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07075219531625626125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-15720791508829488792010-09-13T12:20:57.124+05:302010-09-13T12:20:57.124+05:30@Karmickids ,
I am father of 2 year old kid &...@Karmickids , <br /><br />I am father of 2 year old kid & My wife have managed to continue with a career , & Your comment seriously hit me , this is just possible because of good quality day-care available. This one thing is what makes us feel free to roam around. <br /><br />I am sure , that this is growing need in India..Santosh Salihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14529967342019953019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-63325841953100826922010-09-12T23:33:41.734+05:302010-09-12T23:33:41.734+05:30Very true !
I'm 24 working in PSU with a trans...Very true !<br />I'm 24 working in PSU with a transferrable job...Parents are on a groom-search , results -<br />1. Most of males want a fair , slim , professionally qualified girl ... who can 'adjust' to their requirements.Which means be ready to leave your job as & when your hubby or his family wishes so.<br />2. The job of girl is far less imp thn that of boy ... even with same professional qualifications ,package, etc., etc...<br />3. Although the girl is working she has to take responsibilty of the house-as in cooking, cleaning,all such daily chores + she will have to manage with his soial groups(friends , colleagues,etc.)& she is not suppossed to have 'her' social life!<br />4. Some even have the problems with the notion of 'financial independence ' of the girl..although she earns but she should spend with the conscent (read permission ) of her hubby.<br />5. Some of the would-be could-be's didnot hesitate in saying dont take your job seriously...b'coz in all probability you will have to leave it ....<br />I think..may be life is like this only OR i was living in utopia..Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11626302837060012398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-25616046371925279302010-09-10T13:13:44.531+05:302010-09-10T13:13:44.531+05:30My wife is a B.E.(Electronics),before we got marri...My wife is a B.E.(Electronics),before we got married she was working with HCL Tech for 3 years. She got through IIM Indore in 2006. But she opted out to become a full time mother. It was a mutual, conscious & well thought out decision. She believed she has had enough of following a certain career just because she was academically qualified for it. So she took upon her childhood hobby and dream and transformed it into a decent business idea. Our daughter is now almost 3 years old and my wife is looking after the two 'kids', our daughter and her www.cre80vity.comPawan Sardahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10168751518582094872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-75273823718206239112010-09-09T21:54:25.861+05:302010-09-09T21:54:25.861+05:30as a man, husband of a talented MNC exec and a fat...as a man, husband of a talented MNC exec and a father of 2 year old daughter, this post strikes a chord with me. though it will be difficult for me to fully empathize what i think might help is not looking the situation as compromise / choice but that as different dimensions of success. the way we have tried to work it at our home (and we learn everyday and are far away from an ideal scenario) is taking different attitudes in our jobs.. i go full speed at my career, be very ambitious and negotiate hard at workplace, my wife takes it easy (while still being a very valuable employee and a SME in her area).. obviously she rules at home and takes lion's share of parenting.. it is hard for us particularly when we see that she can do so much more in the job and rise much faster but then we see the career and home as a marathon and not a 100 m dash.. we live and learn.. having said that i would gladly switch roles with her if need be and i think that is a common thread among all highly placed (not necessarily more successful than others) women.. very strong support network..Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00276564914840285103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-26381989035948397092010-09-08T23:38:02.450+05:302010-09-08T23:38:02.450+05:30Spot on! I hear this "what was the point of w...Spot on! I hear this "what was the point of wasting an IIM Eduction on u?" routine too.. and my answer is : i went to the IIM so tht i cld be financially independent enuf to be WHO i wanted to b.. not WHAT you wanted me to be. <br /><br />I think there are options - flexi time jobs (fleximoms.in), volunteering instead of a paid job, and of course, being an entrepreneur. <br /><br />abt that sharing the story bit.. tell us u r doing another book ;-)How do we knowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01763488475931737293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-84329564898858865882010-09-08T17:28:17.093+05:302010-09-08T17:28:17.093+05:30I left my job as my kid needed looking after.I did...I left my job as my kid needed looking after.I did try for jobs but found that part time jobs needed me full time with only part time salaries.Working from home has not yet trickled down from the IT sector. <br /><br />Now,also I am thinking that I should take up a job of teaching .<br />The Government could also help- there are thousands of women who can be in the judiciary as also teaching & other fields if it is only for part time.The backlog of cases can be cleared .The acute dearth of staff for teaching can be met if they have lesser rules for qualifications of teachers at schools & colleges.As it is,I am very doubtful if these norms have really helped the said sectors.vasrao@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07510827368283948188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-83876978304251993852010-09-08T11:57:32.593+05:302010-09-08T11:57:32.593+05:30great topic and true in all sense ...i think it st...great topic and true in all sense ...i think it starts from basic human tendency to be able to do justice to all and lands to a specific situation of a woman...right from childhood girls are taught to be good daughters and then wife and then mothers...guess this behavior weighs heavy on their mindsets....for us to live life like men it is imporatnt for us to learn to behave out of this mindset which says you are good when you are a good only when....you can be a good mother who sets a great example for her kids as a good human, as a successful professional ...not just by spoon feeding kids sitting at home...good mother need not sit at home all the time...to be a good father if this is not a condition then how come is it true for the other half...women should start thinking differenbtly if at all they have the tendency to build their career...vartikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05222063177376601917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-86697456854209323062010-09-08T11:56:59.650+05:302010-09-08T11:56:59.650+05:30great topic and true in all sense ...i think it st...great topic and true in all sense ...i think it starts from basic human tendency to be able to do justice to all and lands to a specific situation of a woman...right from childhood girls are taught to be good daughters and then wife and then mothers...guess this behavior weighs heavy on their mindsets....for us to live life like men it is imporatnt for us to learn to behave out of this mindset which says you are good when you are a good only when....you can be a good mother who sets a great example for her kids as a good human, as a successful professional ...not just by spoon feeding kids sitting at home...good mother need not sit at home all the time...to be a good father if this is not a condition then how come is it true for the other half...women should start thinking differenbtly if at all they have the tendency to build their career...vartikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05222063177376601917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-46432911615289734002010-09-08T02:00:49.851+05:302010-09-08T02:00:49.851+05:30Hello Rashmi,
Very well articulated.
Here is a ni...Hello Rashmi,<br /><br />Very well articulated.<br />Here is a nice post quite relevant to what you have written.<br /><br />http://ultraviolet.in/2010/08/31/empowerment-begins-at-home/#more-1387<br /><br />Regards,<br />RajarshiRajarshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00949837409466343426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-63395429115385915122010-09-07T01:29:19.063+05:302010-09-07T01:29:19.063+05:30I am on of those who stepped aside from the corpor...I am on of those who stepped aside from the corporate world and say" Hats off to those women who managed to continue ". It is extremely tough juggling both. The kids are my responsibility, there are many to manage a company. However , as one of my batch mates said to me , what was the point wasting all that IIM education on you. Nobody gave that education for free, I went in there amidst lot of competition.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12816657347970376097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-4396909206393532652010-09-06T23:28:23.411+05:302010-09-06T23:28:23.411+05:30jobs in coimbatore www.rkwebdirectory.com Part Tim...jobs in coimbatore www.rkwebdirectory.com Part Time Jobs In Coimbatorepart time jobs in coimbatore for students<br />Home Based Jobs In Coimbatorepart time jobs in coimbatore for college students<br />Other Jobs In Coimbatoreside jobs coimbatore<br />Free Google Adsense Training In Coimbatorejob opportunities in coimbatore<br />Free Web Design Training In Coimbatoresoftware jobs in coimbatore<br />part time jobs in coimbatore without investmentsoftware jobs in coimbatore for freshersAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-42696425272407777392010-09-06T23:27:59.467+05:302010-09-06T23:27:59.467+05:30jobs in coimbatore www.rkwebdirectory.com Part Tim...jobs in coimbatore www.rkwebdirectory.com Part Time Jobs In Coimbatorepart time jobs in coimbatore for students<br />Home Based Jobs In Coimbatorepart time jobs in coimbatore for college students<br />Other Jobs In Coimbatoreside jobs coimbatore<br />Free Google Adsense Training In Coimbatorejob opportunities in coimbatore<br />Free Web Design Training In Coimbatoresoftware jobs in coimbatore<br />part time jobs in coimbatore without investmentsoftware jobs in coimbatore for freshersAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-4167697536562417592010-09-06T21:07:06.317+05:302010-09-06T21:07:06.317+05:30Very thought-provoking post. As mother to a toddle...Very thought-provoking post. As mother to a toddler, I think of this issue often. I do have support from my parents/in-laws and a maid, so I am able to work long hours. <br /><br />But the main problem is rising to senior levels means working longer which means less time to spend with the kids. What’s the point having children if you don’t get to spend more than an hour a day with them? <br /><br />I am searching for a long-term solution to this conundrum, but for now this situation prevails.A Ramble in Aphasiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01749714274111146086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-79045338179509846992010-09-06T17:18:32.874+05:302010-09-06T17:18:32.874+05:30Hello Rashmi,
I had quit my job as soon as I real...Hello Rashmi,<br /><br />I had quit my job as soon as I realized that commuting to office can cause troubles in my already difficult pregnancy. When my daughter turned one and half, I decided to enter the corporate world again (I belong to IT industry). The question was which one to choose and where to strike the balance. I joined my present company for around 40% lesser pay than what I was getting earlier(!) just because my company boasts of flexi timings. Within a few months, I was given full Work from home privilege. Yeah.It's a privilege for me, considering it gives me full access to my daughter and keeps me in peace even when I am working (she stays with the maid at that time - in separate room)<br />There are downsides and yet I wouldn't trade it for a higher pay packet or more ambitious position..<br />I do wish though that this work from home or other such privileges were extended to all levels and areas of workforce..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-89367337578798119722010-09-06T13:09:51.287+05:302010-09-06T13:09:51.287+05:30I second your view on using the first 8-10 years o...I second your view on using the first 8-10 years of one's professional efforts to establish oneless. And, remember that self-employment may not mean regular money but it's glamourous, liberating, and offers time to enjoy that cup of tea with a Notebook on the lap :)<br /><br />Agree with Karmickids about the need for quality child care in the country. Helpers arranged at home vary a lot in their attitude and skillset, so can't be treated as a solid foundation for child rearing. Then they leave and you've errands to run, research to finish and that child must be given a healthy snack instead of a packet of chips...<br /><br />I should also highlight that a child brings to us a dramatically different mandate and a break from 8-10 years of routine workplace tasks -- but men do not such a luxury. They must push ahead on the work front despite demands of parenting (even though curtailed) on their time.<br /><br />JyotiJyoti Bhargavahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02839742933321553799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-63031111629152761082010-09-06T11:30:28.585+05:302010-09-06T11:30:28.585+05:30Well put. I think your Plan A is also far more fea...Well put. I think your Plan A is also far more feasible today than say 15 yrs ago. I do think though, that there is a choice to be made. And also, its not just the system but also the working mom's inner guilt that needs taming...Apurv Nagpalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06264478278944585815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-6179149809272389962010-09-06T11:14:27.542+05:302010-09-06T11:14:27.542+05:30Just discussing this with the hubby yesterday. The...Just discussing this with the hubby yesterday. The primary issue in India is the lack of good childcare. If I had a place I could leave my son at, I would have considered going back to full time work. He insists that many women are working and leaving their kids with maids, but that is not an option I would take. Forget becoming a star, just having a proper career would have been fulfilling enough for me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02528271916192411200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-42525124045198082442010-09-06T10:55:41.338+05:302010-09-06T10:55:41.338+05:30happy you wrote on this topic. let me tell you, it...happy you wrote on this topic. let me tell you, its a huge assumption to say that this applies only to women! as a man, I'm not too keen on that linear path u mentioned either.Anishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09408455646052223544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-65672589079741501172010-09-06T10:49:51.576+05:302010-09-06T10:49:51.576+05:30I totally agree Rashmi. Infact, I was mulling on t...I totally agree Rashmi. Infact, I was mulling on these thoughts for quite some days. But everytime I think, Women need to chart a different path, I wonder how women like Indra Nooyi, Chanda Kocchar have made it. They sure did not reach the top position in one go and in one night! I am reading more on their lives these days to see how they managed things differently to be able to balance out both.N. Nagajyothihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09705010981035062971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-21083790899871587312010-09-06T10:46:22.402+05:302010-09-06T10:46:22.402+05:30Very well written. I do fear of the situation of l...Very well written. I do fear of the situation of leaving the job. But what makes me strong is the same thought of being self-employed in a long run. Though it is tough and might not enable me to fetch the same amount as my job, but the feeling of being self-employed could keep one going. And of course, the definition of success and happiness is SUBJECTIVE.Stuti Shah Shethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00440513831920715571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9605787.post-32378943665242481682010-09-06T10:29:16.746+05:302010-09-06T10:29:16.746+05:30I am a male, but can connect to what you wrote - s...I am a male, but can connect to what you wrote - so many professional women dropping out to take care of family. Some reasons-<br /><br />- Not all jobs pay a decent amount of salary. For instance, home makers [men/ women] would be happy if they earn some decent wages than toiling at workplace each day. <br /><br />- The minimum # of "customers" for your freelance service to be successful is 3. Less than that, can call it a chance and cannot survive for long. <br /><br />- Women <i>do</i> manage work and home.. and despite much of studies indicate, men are more emotional and feel stressed due to everyday pressure compared to women. The fairer gender can pour out their woes to their spouse whereas men can't rant ! :-) May be this also the reason women live longer than men in <b><i>every</i></b> society of the world !?Mayos Nounhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09203861622311531322noreply@blogger.com